February 28, 2008
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Name Change
Who knew getting married would involve so many different things? Mostly, I tend to worry about the wedding celebration/ceremonies themselves, but that’s because that’s the fun part. However, there have been several other things weighing on my mind — things like sharing a household (moving?!), joint bank accounts, and… DUN DUN DUN~ changing my name.
Brent has already told me he doesn’t really care either way, so the decision is now wholly on me… Which in some ways, makes things feel a lot more difficult.
One of the cool parts about changing my name, though, is that I can finally make “Kim” part of my legal name — which would be pretty cool.
My Options:
Keeping my name the way it is
While this sounds nice, I kind of feel like it’s a cop-out. As much as I’m freaking out about losing my original identity, I really think I should change something, once I become part of a “we”.Hyphenating
Kim Lien (or Khanh Quoc) Nguyen-DeVera
Kim Lien (or Khanh Quoc) DeVera-Nguyen
How would I even choose? Plus, my signature would be horrendously long.Making my last name my middle name
Kim Lien (or Khanh Quoc) Nguyen DeVera
Um, it’s pretty long. But at least I’d just be signing Kim DeVera (or Khanh DeVera)Getting rid of my middle name and adding something cool
Kim Awesome DeVera
So I can literally say my middle name is “Awesome”What do you guys think? Is it good to change my name? And if so, which route should I take?
Comments (27)
kim xanga devera. =)
Kim Nguyen-DeVara has a nice ring to it. A good rhythm… rolls right off the tongue…
I concur with shoujo. My name as it is right now is pretty long. I’d probably have the same problem as you if I ever get married.
Add his name as a second name.. but keep using your original too. Much easier, then you don’t “HAVE” to change it on the bank accounts, etc… its really not worth changing all the crap around. You get dumb looks from the monkeys making $6/hour that can’t figure out exactly what you’re trying to do— or they goof it up.
Wow, i’m so pessimistic.
i ditto shoujo
You should just have a first name. Hey, it works for Cher and Madonna.
Princess Kim Bananahammock Nguyen DeVera
Okay, there really is no choice. You only have ONE choice and fortunately for you, it is the most AWESOME choice anyone could ever be stuck with.
I took my husband’s name. Said good-bye to my maiden name. No hyphen. I don’t know if that’s traditional or lame or okay or whatever. It’s just what I wanted to do.
KimVera.
kimbaya
kim lien nguyen devera. it’s straight, simple, and accesible.
u sure the husband won’t be upset at all if u dun use his name???
kim shi devera =D
(kimchi would work just as well)
I say combine it….
Kim Lien DeNguverayen
Kim Lien Nguyen DeVera. Make your current last name, your middle name. The hyphenating last name thang is kinda confusing!
keep your original name.
there was an episode of ‘how i met your mother’ where marshall told lily that they should make their own last name like ‘awesome’. so they’d be the AWESOMES. and their kids would be ‘totally’ and ‘frickin’.
i would keep your original name but when introducing, say ‘kim nguyen-devera’.
My friend keeps telling me that his son’s middle name is “Danger”….Aidan Danger Moro….but I can’t tell if he’s telling the truth or not.
I say Kim Lien Nguyen-DeVera. But Awesome would be AWESOME too.
Kim Nguyen DeVera!
awesome!!!! =D
Kim
Nguyen-DeVera
but yeah, i have a friend, you’d prolly know her, Christine Luong (past LTG, this year’s PR in Circle K). She’s interested in helping you plan your wedding (she wants to eventually become a wedding planner). So, ya interested????
::huggles:: don’t worry about feeling old, it’s your next stage in life!
I can’t even imagine getting married! yay!!
As long as your first name isn’t Kim also… it’s your choice anyway.
Kim Nguyen DeVera!
Looks pretty
It’s funny that you mention this since we were just discussing feminist theory in one of my classes today and name changing for marriage was one of the major topics. I don’t think I’d personally change my last name unless it sounded better than what it already is. I’d say hyphenate it with your last name first. Alternatively, just to play devil’s advocate, couldn’t he also take up your name?
I’d be so willing to change it to DeVera-Nguyen. It sounds more posh and diva like.. somehow.
=D
MY VOTE~
BloodyKitsune has a point. I remember that John Lennon also took Yoko Ono’s name to indicate their “oneness,” or something like that. So they were both Ono Lennon.
So maybe you could both be Nguyen DeVera?
Ask him first, of course, if he’s willing to take your name as well.
Otherwise, whatever you choose, I’m sure it’ll sound great. Congrats!